long distance relationships...

[mensane]

worth the risk or a waste of time and energy?

discuss.....

[MonkeyBrains]

worth the risk or a waste of time and energy?

discuss.....I've been in a relationship for the past 18 months.. And it's been 6 months together in Aus, 6 months Long Distance (Aus / US), another 6 months together in Aus & at the end of August he's looking at going OS again (France) for who knows how long..

It's hard, but if it's what you want it's worth it.. It's certainly not fun & sometimes it's harder knowing you both want to be with each other & can't be, than it would be going your seperate ways..

Dunno.. What do you wanna know about?? And how long distance are we talking??

[low_light]

every single long distance relationship i have ever witnessed has fallen apart. especially when the two finally get to be around one another 24/7 ... its not the same relationship. physical everyday interaction vs. that dangling carrot of a visit and back again.

i would never do it. ever.

-lowy

[ambrosis]

i think any kind of relationship is difficult. it takes a lot of work. if two people are willing to put the effort into it then any relationship will work, long distance or not but you both have to be committed. love knows no boundaries.

lowlight be careful about saying never cuz when you least expect it the thing that you said you would never do, you are bloody well doing it. you just never know, you might meet this wonderful woman and you two will share this beautiful soulful connection and then you find out she lives in alaska. now would you want to let a beautiful thing like that get away? anytime i have said i would never ever do something, the universe always has the last laugh and the next thing i know i am doing it. the universe is truly evil!

mensane, always follow your heart and not your head. if you think it is worth it then it is and you two will find a way to make it work. make sure you get a good long distance plan. :)

[sigh_eternally]

i had one... it certainly hurts when you're apart from the one you love so much. and that was our ultimate downfall (ok that and I was a loser with no future/direction and she had a lot to look forward to... but that's beside the point!)
i'm glad i knew her. and i'm glad i went through it, even though it was very painful when it ended. i dont even think about the money or time or energy i invested in it. just the smiles and warmth i experienced. it was awesome while it lasted.
i'm not gonna sit here and tell you that it can't work, because every person is different. ....
....never mind... i'm gonna cut this short because i'm not very good at making points. i'll just say: "it's worth it". :ogre:

it's a long life. enjoy long distance relationships, local ones, internet ones, the ones in your dreams (and in my case the one with my pillow).... heheh. .
just enjoy it all.
:)

[prism]

on the advice of my attorneys I will not answer this question on the grounds that it may incriminate me :confused:

[Buannan]

being the hopeless pisces romantic that I am....I'd say anytime you find someone that you want to share your hopes and dreams and very being with...it's worth the risk...it's worth the chance

I've done long distance relationships......actually....seems that's about all I've ever had....and I wouldn't give up a single one of them
the biggest obstacle is, eventually, if it's going to work, one or the other or both of you have to move somewhere where you can be together.... because eventually, if it's going to work happily ever after, you have to be together more often than a few times a year

but...hell yeah....if I met a guy that I found interesting and he found me interesting, I'd go for it....even if he lived in the north pole

[quintastic]

in my opinion it's entirely worth it, as long as you're sure that the person is worth all the sacrifice. my fiance and i have been together for more than five years, and the majority of that time has been long distance. it's been excrutiatingly difficult at times, but i don't regret a minute of it. i know that when i move to portland in september living together is going to be a huge adjustment, but i'm as prepared as i can be for that. long-distance relationships certainly aren't easy. a lot of times they're not fun. and it's probably not the ideal way to do things. but sometimes life gives you situations that aren't perfect and you have to make the best of them. it's a no brainer that if i had my choice of matt being here in st. louis with me or away in portland, i would want him to be here. but it's also a no brainer that if i had a choice between being a long distance relationship with him or no relationship at all, i'd pick the long distance relationship every time.

[midnightsyren]

i would take the chance! (if you think it's worth it, that is)

my relationship was long distance for the first 2 and a half - 3 years....

and it was REALLY REALLY REALLY hard.. and there was a lot of pain...
but i learned a lot..

and we have been going out for 5 years this august :o)

[MonkeyBrains]

it's a no brainer that if i had my choice of matt being here in st. louis with me or away in portland, i would want him to be here.

What is it with Matt's and Long Distance Relationships??

[Om1]

What is it with Matt's and Long Distance Relationships??


Me and you have a long distance relationship and I think it's working out pretty great.

[MonkeyBrains]

Me and you have a long distance relationship and I think it's working out pretty great.

Yep.. It's great.. We talk regularly & we're both committed to making this work.. I just miss you so much sometimes Shweta!!

[Om1]

Yep.. It's great.. We talk regularly & we're both committed to making this work.. I just miss you so much sometimes Shweta!!


Ok, so we don't talk so regularly.. I just feel like you need to give me some more SPACE ok? sometimes these are the most suffocating 18,000 miles.

[MonkeyBrains]

Ok, so we don't talk so regularly.. I just feel like you need to give me some more SPACE ok? sometimes these are the most suffocating 18,000 miles.

I honestly didn't know you felt that way.. Why couldn't you talk to me about it?? If you need some space, you just had to say.. But I thought you WANTED to be with me!! I'm sorry.. I'll back off..
You can be so fucking selfish sometimes..

[Om1]

I honestly didn't know you felt that way.. Why couldn't you talk to me about it?? If you need some space, you just had to say.. But I thought you WANTED to be with me!! I'm sorry.. I'll back off..
You can be so fucking selfish sometimes..


baby please baby baby please.. you're right, I am a selfish prick. But i do care about you. That other girl, she meant nothing.. I swear...your southern hemisphere love should be enough for me and it totally is, its just that she was like.. right THERE...I am such a dumbass sometimes. sometimes I stare at your picture and cry. you're so beautiful it hurts...really.. if it makes you feel better I called out your name when me and that other girl were in bed.. she slapped me across the face and stormed out. Can I get you flowers? chocolates? a new printer? we have markers that smell like fruit here, I can mail those out if you want? Anything.. baby pleease baby baby please.. don't make me beg for forgiveness, ok I will. Please forgive me. I'm so selfish and lame. I hate myself. Oh and I'm sorry I called you at 4 am in the morning that last time, I counted the time difference wrong yet again. can you ever forgive me? I'm not worthy.. I'm not worthy.. I suck...Oh and sorry about being drunk and belligerent.. I gotta work on that. You're too good for me.

[MonkeyBrains]

Just knowing that you love me is enough.. I can never stay mad at you long.. I know you care, & I care about you too, so much.. You consume my every waking moment, I live & breath you.. I know she meant nothing to you & it was totally a comfort thing, sometimes all I want is to be held at night, but all I want is to be held by you!! You don't need to get me anything (although some fruity markers sound kinda cool!!) I won't make you beg for forgiveness.. I don't care that you called me at 4am, hearing you voice made it all worth while.. The drunken drawl in your voice always gets me going.. And when you told me you wished I was there so you could take me out the back of the strip joint you were at & fuck me up against an alley wall, my heart melted.. I will always be there for you Babe..



Sorry Saney.. No disrespect to your post here..

[jillybean]

just keep in mind that the basis of ANY relationship worth having, long-distance or otherwise, is trust. if you think you really know someone enough to commit to a relationship, then the distance part will work itself out, so long as all the other ingredients are in the mix...you know: love, honesty, respect, communication, honesty...wait, i guess that's all in the trust part.

;P

[mensane]

just keep in mind that the basis of ANY relationship worth having, long-distance or otherwise, is trust. if you think you really know someone enough to commit to a relationship, then the distance part will work itself out, so long as all the other ingredients are in the mix...you know: love, honesty, respect, communication, honesty...wait, i guess that's all in the trust part.

;P

amen to that sistah....