my world has been turned upsidedown.......

[Do_the_Evolution]

OK so I'm not sure what to do. In november one of my closest friends got married. I've known her for more than 12 years and we are very close....or so I thought. During her wedding, I got to know one of her other bridesmaids, who had become very close to her within a years time. Anyway, since then this gal has started to e-mail me, she is a cool gal and I look forward to her e-mails. But the other day she shocked the crap out of me, by telling me she was in a relationship w/ my best friend. The girl I grew up w/ who I thought told me everything!!!!!! I don't care what her preference is I'm just feeling a little left out. I had to get it out of my system b/c I've been feeling wierd the past few days and I have no one I can tell this too, b/c it's a secret. So I thought I'd share w/ my jamily :)
Thanks for listening.

People are people... so why should it be? That you and I should get along so awfully? DM

[Highway23]

Wow...what a mess...sorry that you're stuck in this mess. The best way I think would just be...keep the friends...lose the relationsips...but that would totally fucking tweak me out too. Hope it all turns out for ya.

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[Do_the_Evolution]

It's not so much that I care she wants a girlfriend and a husband, it's the fact she never told me. That's a BIG part of her life you know? Well thanks for the advice /images/smile.gif there are many worse things, I'm lucky this is my biggest prob. right now!

People are people... so why should it be? That you and I should get along so awfully? DM

[Highway23]

yes you are...lucky indeed /images/smile.gif kinda hehehe...that does suck that you were never told......but on a funny note (if you don't mind) is her husband seeing some of this action?...just kidding /images/smile.gif...I hope it works out for yas

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[Do_the_Evolution]

no, he got the bad end of the deal, he has no clue about it.... in fact both gals are married and their hubbies are in the dark. Kind of funny huh? I don't think the men would mind too much!

People are people... so why should it be? That you and I should get along so awfully? DM

[Highway23]

that does suck...and no..I don't think they would mind...I'm sure they could work something out /images/wink.gif/images/smile.gif

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[Do_the_Evolution]

thanks again for the support /images/smile.gif this is a talk show moment just waiting to happen!

People are people... so why should it be? That you and I should get along so awfully? DM

[takemyhand]

Why would she tell you this and have you discussed this with your friend?

Anne


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[Plaidsurfshorts]

I wish I could offer some advice or support, but the only word coming to mind is "Wow!" [shock] I'd qualify that as "big news".

"What is a million people...listening...to your music?" - JA, "SVT".

[13throwcenter]

your friend probably just didn't feel comfortable telling you about this part of her for whatever reason. Does she know that the other friend told you? Maybe she didn't want anyone to know.

And, I wouldn't assume their husbands would be thrilled with the idea of this secret relationship going on... I dunno, I just don't see it as being as huge of a turn on when you are talking about relationships being involved.




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[mtgirl]

thats crazy girl! wow, i know what you mean, like it would hurt if someone you thought told you all the important stuff just didn't say anything about like something that big. i'm guessing she didn't want to hurt anyone or freak anyone out, and if she's only been married a short time, she probably felt confused about how to deal with that mess. well, i hope it all works out, remember she still needs you as a friend

[Do_the_Evolution]

I'm sure she didn't want me to know, I guess I just find it odd mostly b/c we have always told eachother everything, I mean much worse stuff than what she's going thro now.

People are people... so why should it be? That you and I should get along so awfully? DM

[Do_the_Evolution]

Thanks guys for your input /images/smile.gif it makes me feel a lot better that others find it disturbing too. Makes me feel more normal.

People are people... so why should it be? That you and I should get along so awfully? DM

[pearlmelon]

Ummm, call me crazy but isn't it still cheating on your husband even if it's with another girl? & Since he doesn't know about it, I don't think much of your friend, no offense. A marriage is a marriage, & messing around behind your partner's back is inexcusable. I'm not saying it should affect your friendship of course, it's between her & her husband, but you should talk to her about it, & she should tell him about it. Honesty is the most important thing in a marriage, & if they don't have that, they may as well end it now. Maybe he'll be cool with it, & want in /images/wink.gif, but I can't see him being happy about her doing it behind his back. Cheating is cheating, period.

...And I guess it sucks that she didn't tell you about it, but then again, how do you exactly bring something like that up? hehe. As long as she is a good friend to you, that's all that matters...Her hubby on the other hand might think differently.



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