should i stay or should i go?

[SethP_77]

to use a CLASH quote :)

i'm considering moving out of my parents house and into an apartment on campus.

i need your advice:

i was expecting a single room when i received the phone message yesterday, however only a double room is available right now. i have until Monday to consider the pros and cons of moving out of the house and onto campus. also, it will be different for an only child to be sharing a room.

this is right at the beginning of the semester, so i'm a bit anxious about the transition moving.

i'm leaning both ways. can't seem to decide. i can return to my parents house on the weekends, not to mention i'm welcomed at my aunt's house - she lives in the same town as the college i attend - please share your two cents,..it will be much appreciated...

the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[panther-girl]

I don't know...sharing a room when you never have...you're old enough not to have to do that (you're 23 right....?)
I think the aunt's house idea sounds good...you'll be closer to campus than you would be at home...and you can actively look
for a more ideal situation.
But it's not so bad to have a roommate either...
I'm very helpful aren't I ? :)

[_sysiphus_]

Well, as a university student living at home, I can try and help you out here, but I may be a little biased. See, this depends on how drastic this move away from home is - in my case, I only have about a 40min subway ride to school, so it would be pointless and expensive for me to live on campus. BUT, if you've absolutely had enough of your parents and want out, then I think the aunt's house is a pretty good idea. You can get away from your family and lead a somewhat independent life, but the move in with your aunt won't be that drastic as being completely away from home.

Good luck with your decision! /images/smile.gif


"I thank you for helping me learn how to think, but I reserve the right to determine WHAT I think."

[RogueTrader]

THIS is why your revolution will never work, Seth!!!! You and your lefty mates are never able to make any decisions.....why don't you form a committee?

Seriously, do what you think is best for you. I moved out of home when I was 16 and lived by stangers, so I could not stand to live with my parents, but then again, i cherish my privacy, so I could not share a room.....I would get a another job, earn some extra money and move into a free room in a house with some friends...that's what I would do....but then again....i am a decisive type o guy....

M

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[prism]

that's a toughy Seth...on the one hand you could become friends with you roomie, but the chance of you getting the roomate from hell are just as good. If you can stand living with your aunt until you can arrange for something better, that sounds good ...I like pathergirls idea /images/smile.gif

Roomates are like a box of chocolates, ya never know.......

[SethP_77]

i only have a forty minute commute from my parents' house to the college. i just have the itch to be away from home, you know? i think it happens to everyone. i mentioned my aunt's house in my orginal post as a relief area when things get hectic - in case i have the roommate from hell...

think it over this weekend, and will have a decision by Monday morning...

the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[panther-girl]

RT...heehee....you funny :)

[SethP_77]

yeah, he is funny alright Panther-Girl, funny looking that is ;)

not indecisive at all, just weighing my options. it is the pressure of the day to day demands of US culture and what it puts on our plate that makes me think everything to the fullest...



the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[_sysiphus_]

Hmmm, I don't know now. See, it's all a gamble. You can have a great roommate or some sociopath. I don't know how you'd handle sharing a room, too. But, it's not like you'd have to be in there ALL the time. You can do your work and study in the library. I haven't heard of any real roommates from hell, though. Well, you can always try it out and use your aunt's house as a safe haven and keep looking if need be.
I think I've confused you more than helping you out!! /images/wink.gif


"I thank you for helping me learn how to think, but I reserve the right to determine WHAT I think."

[RogueTrader]

Wait while I get my violin......

dude....you aren't considering going to the moon or anything....you are just moving out of home.....between the ages of 16 and 23 I lived in 15 different places, some of them down right swanky, some of them foul, dank and evil, but every single one of them a learning experience....Living in various situations with other people helped me to figure out who I am.....I whole heartedly think that you should just do it (he he....couldn't resist)....It's a totally reversable decision and something that you will learn a great deal from.

M

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[_sysiphus_]

Yeah, RT, you are right.
Victory for you!!

"I thank you for helping me learn how to think, but I reserve the right to determine WHAT I think."

[yer ardy]

the best way to grow as an individual
is to step outside your comfort zone
and take the risk....

it sounds to me like you've made the decision, seth...
good luck with whatever you choose to do.../images/cool.gif

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are you getting something out of this all encompassing trip???

[SethP_77]

just asking for advice, this isn't competition or anything...

without knowing my personal circumstances, your words fall on deaf ears when you speak without knowing...



the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[SethP_77]

yeah, they call it playing outside the box,..thanks sweet Ardy

:)

the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[RogueTrader]

So I suppose the same canm be said of anyone offering you advice here?

I just think it's a No Brainer regardless of the circumstances......

M

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[SethP_77]

i am referring to the assumptions you often make about me personally - the jokes are find, i can throw them right back at you, but it is when you are being serious that i take offense...

the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[RogueTrader]

Are you assuming that I am making any assumptions?

M

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[SethP_77]

there is something about you which rubs me the wrong way,..we can go on and on, but i will drop it here...

it was a long day for me, dealing with a lot of red tape, so i apoligize for my black mood...

the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[yer ardy]

coloring outside the lines /images/wink.gif

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are you getting something out of this all encompassing trip???

[RogueTrader]

I aint rubbin' you anywhere......

What makes you uncomfortable is that you know I am right (extreme right as the case may be....mmmmuuuuuuwwwwaaaaaaahhhhaaaaaahhhhhhaaaaaaa aaa)

I am out of axzek grease....makes it so difficult to twirl my moustache....at least the stove pipe hat still fits.....

To the castle, Mr Villiers!!!!!

M

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[SethP_77]

no you aren't right at all,..but hey! at least you made me smile, that's a good thing ;)

the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[RogueTrader]

....keep on laughing, lefty boy......that's just what we like....

oops...did I just write that?....shi

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[SethP_77]

whatever ;) now, how exactly did this thread turn all political? it wasn't me this time i swear...

*catch a man a fish, and you can sell it to him. teach a man to fish, and you ruin a wonderful business opportunity* karl marx

the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[vitolochica]

I'd still go hon, you'll meet someone new and you'll still get a chance to further develop your independence... :)

It's my life and its now or never, I ain't gonna live forever. I just wanna live while I'm alive...

[SethP_77]

yep, as simple as that! i'm moving out by the end of this week...

should be a life experience that will help me in the long run...

thanks for the advice...

:)

the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[RogueTrader]

You are more than welcome!!!! Pleased i could help

M

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[reallygroovN]

oh good fur you sethy:):):):):):):):):)

as far as the roommate thingy....my three best friends to this day are my three roommates from college (although they still drive me nuts sometimes) and that was *gulp*....fuck....20 years ago.....time flies! oh, and i married my 3rd roommate:)

living on campus is so much better than living at home, seth, really!

good luck!

off he goes!!

[csmooth24]

good call...I got this far down reading and I was gonna say...GO!!!!!!!!

move out...even if you don't get the 'ideal' roommate...you will learn alot about life...and partying will be easier

chris

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[bluecow]

don't live with people... it totally sucks ass... i've had my own room my whole life and now, a freshman in college, i am forced to share a dorm room with a hyper little n*sync lover... i am trying desparately to find an apt~my own room~ for next year.

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-ironic that they go for the eyes first..

[SethP_77]

well, i know i won't be living with a Freshman, but someone my own age or older. i have the advantage of staying with my aunt if things get too hectic...

live and learn, you know...

the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love - Che

[eddievedderrocks]

good for you seth..
do move out..you have back up if you dont like it so take the plunge...
ive just moved out of my parents house and im loving every minute of it..the only thing i miss is my dog (not the one in my signaute..hes not with us anymore/images/frown.gif)
but i wouldnt go back there if i was paid
so do it..im sure youll love it and if you dont..you can always go back..

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my boofy bear..

[Plaidsurfshorts]

I do believe the man moves into his campus apartment today!!!

GO SETH!!!!! /images/cool.gif

"What is a million people...listening...to your music?" - JA, "SVT".

[northwoodsamyII]

as if you need more...get outta that house! you need life experience son, and the best way to start is to throw yourself into a room with a stranger! teaches you about yourself and your own limits and how to be accepting of others and all their warts. It's a good thing to do. I on;y did it one year mind you cause my limits were "I need my own damn bathroom and shower and if I have to listen to that girl puke outside my door one more time 'm gonaa blow!!!!" But it's an integral part of the higher learing experience....

TO MY FRIENDS, I'M NOT A DRUNK DRIVER...I'M PRESIDENT ELECT.

[corduroykate]

[corduroykate]

good for you seth! i'm proud of ya for venturing out into the wild blue yonder :)
kate