i need some advice

[anotherchild]

ok guess i'd better start at the begining.
about a month ago i met this guy, he's really sweet and i like him a lot. we became friends and i'm really happy about that. thing is i want us to stay friends and i think he wants to take it further, not like sex further, just 'going out' further. i'm really scared cause i don't want to go out with him and i'm afraid i'll hurt him if i say no. it's not like i would be going out with anyone else, cause i'm not ready for that yet, not with anyone. oh god i'm so scared i'm shaking. what do i do? what do i say? i feel like a terrible person for not wanting to go out with him but i can't help it.

[jayscott]

Tell him what you just told us. If you go out with him under false pretenses, he's only going to become more attached, making it harder to break it off later, and endangering the friendship which is all you wanted from the start.
good luck kiddo,
js

I can only be as good as you'll let me.

[northwoodsamyII]

tell the truth..if he can't respect you for that then you wouldn't have wanted to date him anyway. Of course, initially he may be peeved or hurt but any real friend would get over it. Good luck....

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[mtgirl]

i know it'd be tough, but you gotta tell him how you feel. posting this shows that you are very kind and considerate. the only way to go is to tell him no you don't want to take it further. cause if you don't, you will probably feel resentment in the long run and he will probably get hurt even worse in the end. hope things work out as best as possible for you.
(((anotherchild)))


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