highschool homophobia

[corduroykate]

lately one of my gal buddies, lisa, has been ignoring me hardcore, no returned phone calls, she avoids me in the hall, weird shit...so i have no idea why until my friend Petra tell me that lisa told her that she feels uncomfortable when i call lisa "hun" and "sweetie" etc (i do this with gals and guys)...so the conversation continues and i learn that lisa's been giving me the shaft cuz she thinks i'm a lesbian...so what the fuck, who does that?! talk about ignorance...hopefully she'll question her beliefs when she realizes that she's lost a good buddy over her own (incorrect) and prejudiced hypothesis...

-knowledge is contagious, infect truth-

[Not_Trapped]

indeed you are correct about the incorrect and prejudiced hypothesis-some people just take longer to "get it" when it comes to homosexuality

dominic

"Someone said I was dead, and I said I wasn't and shut the lid"

[rockrighter]

I had friends like that. They didn't really know I'm queer, though. It was kinda the opposite for me . . . I stopped spending time with them on a regular basis because I couldn't put up with the dumb jokes they made from time to time, and knowing that nothing else would matter to them if they did know. I figured they would forget about the fun we had as friends and classmates and only concentrate on this small part of who I am, which rarely comes to the forefront anyhow.

I feel sorry for your friend. It's funny in a sad way that a person, to her, is queer based on a few phrases said out of spite, through force of habit or affection (or a combo of all three).

~~
god was my copilot but we crashed and i had to eat him

[jamijams]

sorry kate, but I find this SO funny. talk about judging without factual knowledge. hey lisa - don't flatter yourself so much silly. /images/tongue.gif not to mention, if she was paying that close attention to who YOU are, she'd know you use terms of endearment with everyone. I do that too. I call everyone sweets, hon, bud, sweetie...not by any means condescending or sexual...just part of who i am. i hope lisa will become a little more comfortable with herself. she has no reason to be threatened...by straight OR gay friends. while I'm sure there are instances where gay people are attracted to straight (actually a woman here at work has a big crush on me..../images/shocked.gif/images/wink.gif) people....i'd be hard pressed to beleive that gay people waste their time trying to sway people into homosexuality. i mean come on. i'm sorry that you've been getting the cold shoulder over something so silly. even if you WERE a lesbian...what you prefer sexually is a very small part of who anyone is, certainly not the defining or identify factor. that makes me so mad. like 'gay' is the end all be all of who someone is. here's a thought...you don't ask what i do in my bed, i won't ask what you do in yours. i mean really. ignorance is SO unattractive. i recommend you pinch her ass next time you see her /images/tongue.gif
no but really....how sad for her.

Tell me,and I will forget. Show me,and I will remember. Involve me,and I will understand.~Confucius

[glittagirl79]

this has always been something that i could never understand. even if you *were* a lesbain, why the fuck would she stop talking to you? you're friends right? kate, fuck her... we figured this out last night, she sucks, you rock /images/smile.gif

"oh, i'm not handicapped, i'm just lazy" homer j.

[mtgirl]

word, that's pretty sad alrighty

boyz are *FRUSTERATING!*

[_om_]

I hate it when random people I barely know call me "hun" or "sweetie".


om1

[corduroykate]

well i know lisa quite well...and if she'd have just told me it irritated her i would have stopped...isnt that the whole idea of friendship? honesty? bah...

-knowledge is contagious, infect truth-

[Highway23]

I do like when older people call me sweetie


or a cute mom /images/shocked.gif

"Jake, you try too hard to make everything work"~mom~

[peacefulness]

I tend to use terms of endearment sometimes, mostly when I'm being sarcasticly condescending. But I use it occasionaly at other times. It depends on my mood. I have to be in a pretty good mood usually, and I'm almost never that happy. When I was in high school, I had friends who were uncomfortable with that too. I dont' get it either, really.

~Melanie

"What kind of sex isn't casual?" Susanna Kayson in Girl, Interrupted