vindictive?

[jamijams]

as some of you know, recently i've been dealing with a kind of icky medical condition (not icky like "ewwwww gross!", icky like "oh man, that sucks!") /images/smile.gif. anyways, next week I'm heading to the Health and Sciences University for some less than fun tests and evaluation. They sent me a huge packet of in depth questionaires, alot of which asks for detailed family medical history. No problem on my mother's side, they're the crazy ones /images/wink.gif that like to cuss alot.....anyways....so, my estranged biological father (whom I refer to as the sperm donor)....several years ago, before he sent me the lovely ten page letter, specifically detailing exactly why I was not, am not, and will not ever be part of him, his life, his thoughts, I had asked him for his family medical history...something that is good to have, you know? My request fell on dead ears. So now this condition I have has come up....so the first of November, I sent him a letter, typed, asking for detailed medical history, and specifically noting that I need this information no later than December 1st, and that it was important that I have it. I sent him my work address as my return address, asked that he take the request seriously. It wasn't a friendly letter, but certainly wasn't rude or anything like that, just to the point, business. So, here it is, almost the first of December, and what do you know, no letter. Fucking shocker. He and his family recently moved back to Mesa, AZ, I found out through some family friends that he is on aol, and I have his address. what I REALLY, REALLY want to do, is send him an email from a bogus email address....I was thinking something along the lines of "terryisaprick@hotmail.com"....letting him know that I think it is pathetic that he is so selfish and narrow minded that he cannot even provide his spawn with medical information....kind of along the lines of " you know, even a sperm bank allows access to donor medical history....." I realize this is just harboring anger and creating unecessary hate in my life, but what the hell man!!!! grrrrr..../images/mad.gif suggestions???

not all things that are faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced~j.baldwin

[csmooth24]

still no history??? damn...this seems like a common sense thing for him to do...out of common human courtesy, family issues aside...

i think maybe an email, similar to your last letter might be a good idea for now...then if again, no response i would say be nasty! i know you might want to be nasty now, but you need to get the medical history...one more chance wont hurt...

good luck with this...its a f*cked up situation!

((((((((((((((((jami))))))))))))))))))))

~ 'trust is something that comes easy, when you've never been a victim' - t. keith

[mtgirl]

can i just say, that sucks ass! i remember you writing about him before and as if that wasn't bad enuf, now this! it's just amazing to me how disrespectful and rude people can be. i think you should email him at least cause maybe it's just too much trouble for him to write a letter and then he'd have a reply button right there, because when it comes down to it, what you *need* is the info. i'd save the angry part for if he doesn't respond by saturday. plus, and i'm not saying this is the case, but mail is moving very slowly these days and he could've procrastinated it till recently. what i'm getting at is that i want you to get the info. either way, babe, i hope your condition improves.

..the music here has helped you work thru a few things (or dance and sing on top of them) - ed

[Highway23]

((((JAMI)))))

Sounds like one big fuck-hole,and there are plenty out there just like him, and have done the same thing....which is really sad

I don't think an email would be a bad idea, and like Chris said, give it to him nice...and if he doesn't reply or anything like that...well...tell him to fuck off and that you got a friend in NY who works with the mob and will beat the shit out of his lame ass :) (don't worry, I'm not really connected with the mob.....though I do have a distant cousin who is protected by the FBI...who was/and may still be a part of a huge mob in Utica NY...cool eh? /images/smile.gif)...but just say that I'm big and tough and kill giant dogs with my boot :)

Hope all goes well sweets....I'm here for ya

"I'm a Mog. Half man, half dog. I'm my own best friend."-Barf

[mtgirl]

this is just hearsay, but, my roommate said that he thinks that you legally have access to that info. his mom is adopted and has never met her parents, but she could get access to her biological info. so just something you might want to verify

..the music here has helped you work thru a few things (or dance and sing on top of them) - ed

[jamijams]

*how* to get the info though? like who to ask or write or call or whatever? how was the run? /images/laugh.gif

not all things that are faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced~j.baldwin

[Highway23]

ummm...geez...I dont know anything about how you get that type of access....hopefully someone could help you out though sweets

"I'm a Mog. Half man, half dog. I'm my own best friend."-Barf

[mtgirl]

my roomie is on his run now, so i will ask if he knows any more when he gets back. my run was good i didn't even fall and sprain anything! my cheeks were rosy, all four of them!

..the music here has helped you work thru a few things (or dance and sing on top of them) - ed

[jamijams]

I got the letter today, too bad my appointment was *yesterday*. at least I got it, even though that bastard didn't send it until the 29th. jerky /images/mad.gif

not all things that are faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced~j.baldwin

[mtgirl]

dude.

well at least you have the info for the future. hope the appt. went alright otherwise.


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[csmooth24]

ass hole...

~ 'trust is something that comes easy, when you've never been a victim' - t. keith

[jamijams]

alot better than I expected /images/smile.gif thanks kate!

not all things that are faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced~j.baldwin

[corduroykate]

dont waste enegry being upset at someone like that jami...he's a dick, channel all that emotion into something that benefits you...dont let him hurt you anymore than he has...

[mtgirl]

:)


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