oh, dear dad.....

[yer ardy]

well...of course you had one...
or maybe you didn't know him...
maybe he is/was your everything...
maybe you are one...
maybe you know a real good one...
maybe you'll be one someday...

for what it's worth...
this sunday is father's day...

happy father's day... /images/smile.gif

~~~~~
"Cage or wings, which do you prefer?
Can't decide? Ask a bird..."

[13throwcenter]

my dad has been pretty cool for the past few months.... gotta think of the right words to thank him...

I think we only have a couple of Dads in this place- MFCecil and NoCrime2Escape.... am i right on this?! Happy Happy Day, Dads!



"If anybody ever tells you you can't change the world.... fuck 'em." ~EV

[margaret ann]

every time I visit my parents or they come to visit me...which isn't as often as they would like...when we're saying goodbye my dad gives me a hug and then with his arm still around my shoulder he looks me straight in the eyes and says, "I'm proud of you...you know that right"...oh god I'm actually tearing up now...my dad worked so hard for our family and I appreciate everything he and mom did for my sister and I...but hearing those words from him now means more to me than anything...I love him so much

[corduroykate]

thanks for posting this ardy
my mom went in for surgery today
(shes home now and totally ok)
but just seeing my dad with her before they left
and how he took care of her
and supported her
makes me realize yet again
how lucky i am
to have both of them
-kate-

[13throwcenter]

wow.... that is awesome MA! what a cool dad.



"If anybody ever tells you you can't change the world.... fuck 'em." ~EV

[Not_Trapped]

it is funny that you used a line from that song as your subject. at one point i was listening to it in my room when a mutual friend of my dad and i walk through the hallway to the WC. long story short about the mutual friend-my dad is a cop and she works in his office-her son and i have known each other since we were about 9-so the friendships just became natural. she heard release and said she really liked it and wondered who it was. i told her blah blah blah and she looked up the lyrics online and then emailed me the next day. she said that it was perfect for my father's and my relationship. then she heard the it's okay cover and got lyrics for that and said that it seemed like a song written by my father and i at different times and put together. i dont know. i am just really lucky i guess. we have a rough father/son rx, but no matter what he has always done the best thing for me. he has given me that rope and let me fall on my own to figure stuff out with my own mind. i guess i should be telling him all of this.

dominic

staring blankly back at you

[SethP77]

out of the blue i called my father from my work today to say that i love him, which left him speechless and grateful when i spoke to him directly later on in the day...

happy father's day, dad. i love and respect U...

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a better world is in birth
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[jamijams]

I know Sandi had a chance to read my post at synergy of the same title on my birthday...fathers day can bring alot of emotion for me....the relationship I have with my father, my dad, my friend, my teacher, is amazing (I know exactly what you are talking about margaret). I actually just received the first letter I've gotten from my dad a few weeks back...it's under the glass on my dresser, along with other important things and pictures I've saved...his first letter to me (strangely enough release just came on, I have ten on random) to encourage me and remind me that I am a strong person, that everyone feels pain, that pain does not equal defeat, rather growing. My dad is wonderful, as a matter of fact he will tell you he fell in love with me first, my mother second...I can remember the day he adopted me in court, standing on a long court bench, the judge asking me if my daddy was there, and if he was could I go give him a hug, I believe I was three maybe four. My dad met me at the gate with flowers every time I have flown home to see them, taught me how to throw a good punch, how to clean a fish (ICK), how to very sneakily spit your green beans into a napkin, how to not buy things without cash in hand, and he loves me unconditionally. truly, a great man.

the sperm donor you ask? well terry chose to write me off many, many years ago. how unfortunate for him that once was not enough, he felt it productive to write me a ten page letter at the age of twenty detailing each and every reason I was not, and never will be his. fucker. idiot.

not all things that are faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced~j.baldwin

[Just_Jam_Please]

Hey Sandi......I'm impressed you know that NoCrime2Escape is a dad.....right on woman/images/smile.gif

Ahhhhh....Father's Day is always so difficult. My dad came to this country wanting to build a better life than he had, as most immigrants to the states do. And now here he is 61 years old with both daughters 3,000 miles away who think that he doesn't care about them and doesn't know us at all. Last year when I moved to CA my sister came out with me. It was a Saturday morning and the 4 of us were standing there looking at one another. My dad broke the silence in a weary voice and said 'I'm sorry if I was a bad dad,' and started BAWLING his eyes out. Never in all my years had I seen my dad get emotional. Never has he ever uttered the words "I love you" or "I'm proud of you." Not even when I graduated college. When my sister and I left we bawled our eyes all the way through OH into Indiana. I put on 'Footsteps' and for some reason it made me feel better. Sad that my dad doesn't know and maybe will ever know that he is my hero and how much I admire him. He'll just never know. Oh, why did I share all this which has now got me in tears?!?!?! UGH!!!!!

Esh anc skis ym sas!/images/smile.gif/images/tongue.gif

[baccusgrrl]

i hope that the man i marry is a good dad. my dad was an asshole and i would never wish that any child would have to grow up with that kind of parent!

[yer ardy]

my dad drank himself to death...before that he liked to hit my mom and then hit us kids if we tried to stop him...so, yeah, he was no picnic. the man was smart, very intelligent, responsible for innovative ideas that made the assembly lines work better in the car factories here in motown - he got accolades, certificates and money for his ideas. yet, he drank himself into oblivion every night to escape the hell that was his life. the "why" is what i spent a better part of my growing up years struggling to figure out.

i used to hate my dad, detested him, cursed his name, swore i'd never forgive him for the pain he caused. as a result, i developed my own demons, struggled with my own hell that was my life. after many a night screaming, i decided that holding a grudge was like being stung to death by one bee. so i forgave him, i didn't forget, but i forgave.

this is his loss, him not being here to see me and what became of my life. he missed out on his two sons growing into responsible, decent men. he missed out on walking his only daughter down the aisle at her wedding and giving her away to a man he would've highly approved of..he missed out on five incredibly beautiful and genuinely loving granddaughters... his loss.

so, yeah, i had a dad. at one time i loved him and thought he was the best dad. but, like a lot of others, he went down another path in life and paid dearly for it. there's times i wish i had him here to call when i need advice or to go to the auto show with or to have come to my daughter's softball game. but, then again, the way things turned out for him and me were out of my control but made me who i am today - you can't change that, but you can live and learn from it. those who forget the past are destined to repeat it.

thanks for listening... /images/smile.gif

~~~~~
"Cage or wings, which do you prefer?
Can't decide? Ask a bird..."

[jamijams]

happy fathers day jammer dads, i hope you had a great day, but i hope for each of you to have the type of relationship with your children that promotes showing emotion and feeling everyday, not just once a year.

dads are awesome, i had great conversation with mine...and i guess he qualifies as a jammer dad too, because he has called me 'jammer' since i was a little kid, my nickname, that or thejamijammer. kind of all makes sense sometimes my friends....

not all things that are faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced~j.baldwin

[SethP77]

i bought my dad a card and made a cassette of paul simon's "you're the one" for him to listen to while he drives to and from work each day...

i guess the best gift i can give him is more out of the blue "i love you dad" and a few hugs thrown in to boot /images/smile.gif

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a better world is in birth
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i do what i want to FREE MUMIA!

[mtgirl]

damn ardy ((((((((ardy))))))))) listen girlfriend, i'm glad you are who you are anyway. the lessons we learn.....

"life is one big math problem, and i suck at math" --poopster