View Full Version : Please pray to the relationship Gods...
GreenDisease
10-13-2006, 10:04 PM
Because I was asked out on my first date, and its tomorrow!
I'm not used to this kind of attention, but he's such a nice guy....... first date jitters suck. But its about goddamn time.. it only took 27 years!
:cheer: :biggrin: :nervous: :nervous:
Highway23
10-13-2006, 11:32 PM
awesome! goood luck...sure it'll be awesome!
panthergirl
10-14-2006, 12:12 AM
that's awesome cara... just relax and be yourself :calm:
:):):)
have fun!
rockrighter
10-14-2006, 01:06 AM
All the best in the world to you, Cara. We're kindred spirits in this realm.
Hope it goes well for you.
Not_Trapped
10-14-2006, 01:17 AM
i hope it goes PERFECTLY and i hope it's amazing...
brokenarrow
10-14-2006, 07:59 AM
We'll be thinking good thoughts! It'll be just fine! :cool:
GreenDisease
10-14-2006, 01:14 PM
Men are the worst humans on the planet.
I was stood up AGAIN this afternoon. Got a message just now that his father was rushed to the "hospital" this morning. If your father was rushed to the hospital wouldn't there be a slight bit of concern in your voice? He sounded like it was any other day.
I've been through worse I guess. I've been left in a resturant, and a guy left my house even before the date started leaving me sitting in the living room wondering where he was.
I am just not meant for this.
Buannan
10-14-2006, 01:17 PM
aw...damn cara
it's his loss...he probably just had a panic attack and freaked out..guys are such children sometimes
GreenDisease
10-14-2006, 01:30 PM
Guys are whimps. Still doesn't stop the tears though.
I should just become a lesbian.
I need to go abuse my credit cards now.
rockrighter
10-14-2006, 01:50 PM
It is possible he was telling the truth ... tone of voice doesn't necessarily mean he wasn't upset about it. If I was in your shoes, I'd talk to him again in the near future and ask him how his Dad is, what the problem is, etc. If Ms. B. is right and he got a case of the jitters, then this may get him to become more comfortable.
Thing is, if he asked you out, then he must have had a reason for doing so. Don't spend all your money yet.
Hope you feel better soon, Cara.
brokenarrow
10-14-2006, 01:55 PM
It is possible he was telling the truth ... tone of voice doesn't necessarily mean he wasn't upset about it. If I was in your shoes, I'd talk to him again in the near future and ask him how his Dad is, what the problem is, etc. If Ms. B. is right and he got a case of the jitters, then this may get him to become more comfortable.
Thing is, if he asked you out, then he must have had a reason for doing so. Don't spend all your money yet.
Hope you feel better soon, Cara.
such wonderful advice!
Listen to what she said Green....
Buannan
10-14-2006, 01:57 PM
oh cara...if I had a dime for every time I have told myself that I should just be a lesbian...lesbians find me irresistable...men on the other hand....
unfortunately, I can't stand chicks...talk about messing with heads..they have perfected the science (in general anyway)
Buannan
10-14-2006, 02:01 PM
btw..I agree with those dudes above...give the guy the benefit of the doubt and get a hold of him in a couple of days and ask how his father is
GreenDisease
10-14-2006, 02:37 PM
True, true...but this has all happened before. I'm a serial dumpee. I love the "Its not you, its me".
Growing old with cats sounds much better, and less hurtful.
Buannan
10-14-2006, 02:50 PM
how about the "I'm not ready for a relationship right now" and then six months afterward, they are engaged...to someone else, of course...I've even been told that I'm not "relationship material" whatever that means..anyway, cara, you know I just went through something really tough with a guy I've known forever, so, I'm bitter as hell right now so don't listen to me
cats rock...I have three and am thinking of getting another one...yep...cats rock
;)
GreenDisease
10-14-2006, 03:15 PM
Ive got two, but thats my parents' limit.
A good friend of mine just got two kittens, one with an extra toe on both front paws. Her husband surprised her with a purebred shitzu puppy the other day and had to bring the kittens back to the shelter. I was ready to take the one with the extra toes, but my mom put her foot down. The cats we've got now are a handful. A fluffy loveable handful.
Highway23
10-14-2006, 03:23 PM
don't give up hun...
:) it'll all work out
GreenDisease
10-14-2006, 03:30 PM
Im going to do some Christmas shopping. Christmas always cheers me up. :)
Not_Trapped
10-14-2006, 06:35 PM
douchebag
GreenDisease
10-15-2006, 10:04 AM
I cleared my head with a nice long walk this morning and decided to give him a call... calling last night would have upset me a bit more because I was already emotional as it is.
His dad was rushed to the hospital and he did seem genuinly sorry for not showing. He asked if he could make if he could make it up to me, and I said yes. But he should take care of his family first and that a date can wait until his father is better.
I'm Italian/German/Taurus... notorious for knee-jerk reactions, and I told him that and the things that have happened in the past to me, and he told me that there was no need to worry.
So we shall see......
Highway23
10-15-2006, 11:11 AM
fo' sure!
brokenarrow
10-15-2006, 12:12 PM
I cleared my head with a nice long walk this morning and decided to give him a call... calling last night would have upset me a bit more because I was already emotional as it is.
His dad was rushed to the hospital and he did seem genuinly sorry for not showing. He asked if he could make if he could make it up to me, and I said yes. But he should take care of his family first and that a date can wait until his father is better.
I'm Italian/German/Taurus... notorious for knee-jerk reactions, and I told him that and the things that have happened in the past to me, and he told me that there was no need to worry.
So we shall see......
:biggrin: :cool: :cool: Very cool!
Buannan
10-15-2006, 12:17 PM
make sure he pays for dinner
;)
rockrighter
10-15-2006, 12:34 PM
Alrighty. You took a bit of a risk telling him how you initially reacted (some people would be insulted by the insinuation that they were lying - the reason I know this is because I can get like that :patch:) but I hope your honesty was noticed by him.
Don't listen to Ms. B this time, pay for your own dinner. Don't make me get all Destiny's Child "Independent Woman" on your ass. :jag:
Hee hee.
GreenDisease
10-15-2006, 01:15 PM
Honesty is the best policy in my book. I wasn't like "I think you're lying." I just spoke about first experiences with guys who said they liked me and then left me in the dark and that I was worried that was what he was doing. He reassured me that he wasn't.
As for dinner, since this is the first, I can pay for my own dinner..... if he chooses to purchase anything after that, then thats his call. Anything after that, it's coming out of his wallet, haha.
Highway23
10-15-2006, 02:40 PM
I think he should get first dibs on buying the dinner...
because he was the one who asked you out. Paying for your own makes a dood feel stupid, especially if it as his idea....
Not_Trapped
10-15-2006, 02:54 PM
ah, now, i know why we're friends - i totally agree.
rockrighter
10-15-2006, 03:54 PM
I think he should get first dibs on buying the dinner...
because he was the one who asked you out. Paying for your own makes a dood feel stupid, especially if it as his idea....
It's illogical to feel stupid because your date is financially secure enough to pay for herself. So it's your own bloody fault.
"Goddamn bitches are only after money!" + "Wahhhh, she wouldn't let me pay for her!" = :puzzled:
Negotiations as to who covers what I'd be perfectly fine with, so long as it equals out, even if it covers the span of a few more dates down the road (so long as it's established that they're happening).
Of course, I don't play in your playground, so I don't tend to see things like the rest of you who went about life normally for some reason.
GreenDisease
10-15-2006, 04:22 PM
I don't even need to have a guy open a door for me, it's nice, but I can handle a door myself thank you. :)
I say, whoever gets to the door first opens and holds it. I open and hold the door for anyone if I'm there first.
If we go beyond a few dates, and it becomes something more, then we can worry about who pays. We both love the Devils, and we were talking about going to a game. That could be a pretty expensive night.. tickets, parking, beverages/snacks. Thats something that I wouldn't let him pay completely for. Thats a team effort. :) A hockey game is different than dinner, but everything is expensive to me these days!
Whats that saying "Lets go Dutch"? I don't mind going Dutch for a date... and it doesn't have anything to do with guys vs. girls. I do it because to me, its the right thing to do.
_sysiphus_
10-15-2006, 10:53 PM
Glad to hear your date didn't stand you up, but am sorry about his dad.
I always like to split dinner costs, but if the guy insists, I'm not gonna argue :P
moyboy
10-16-2006, 02:20 PM
It's illogical to feel stupid because your date is financially secure enough to pay for herself. So it's your own bloody fault.
"Goddamn bitches are only after money!" + "Wahhhh, she wouldn't let me pay for her!" = :puzzled:
Negotiations as to who covers what I'd be perfectly fine with, so long as it equals out, even if it covers the span of a few more dates down the road (so long as it's established that they're happening).
Of course, I don't play in your playground, so I don't tend to see things like the rest of you who went about life normally for some reason.
eat and run. now that's excitement and the problem is solved.
Highway23
10-16-2006, 02:34 PM
I guess I've never been on dates with you "split the tab" girls...
yuck! :P
rockrighter
10-16-2006, 02:57 PM
A fool and his money ... blah blah blah. Heh heh.
I like how my stepmom is home sick from work but is now leaving to go somewhere.
reallygroovN
10-16-2006, 03:09 PM
i'm old school. if the guy asks you, he pays. if you both just decide to get together for a meal, you offer once, but the guy insists and he pays. after you are a couple, then the girl can pay. but during the wooing, the guy pays.
Not_Trapped
10-16-2006, 03:21 PM
if you ask me...the girl can pay for her way...and MINE too hahahahahaha
prism
10-16-2006, 09:34 PM
i'm old school. if the guy asks you, he pays. if you both just decide to get together for a meal, you offer once, but the guy insists and he pays. after you are a couple, then the girl can pay. but during the wooing, the guy pays.
right on. she's got it down to a science this groovN one :cheek:
now that I don't have to bring my kids along on a date no guys ever ask me out....it figures :ditsy:
GreenDisease
10-17-2006, 08:32 PM
eat and run. now that's excitement and the problem is solved.
hehehe, the ole' dine and dash routine.... I don't have the guts to do that!
peacefulness
10-18-2006, 11:47 PM
Well, this is fun news. That you had a date and that he didn't stand you up. Not so good that his father was taken to the hospital, but you do realize that if he were lying then he'd be a jerk who stands girls up AND uses his father as a sick excuse. So it all works out.
I have to say that I am old-fashion with a twist of modern. I tend to assume the guy will want to pay (or hold the door open), but I don't just let him do it. I tend to be pretty honest and say "So do you want to split the bill?" And he usually pays for it all out of duty. And why is this fine by me? Well, because its like entering a lottery without having to pay anything or make any obligation, and in the end you could win big... and if you don't win big, you didn't really lose much. You save your money and he feeds his ever-hungry ego. Its win-win. :)
Of course, I'm pretty broke these days, so I don't turn down a free meal from most people, so I wouldn't change that for a date just for some feminist statement. It makes my food last longer.
~Mel
csmooth24
10-19-2006, 03:22 AM
i hope this date works out cara!! have fun!!
I don't let him pay if I haven't shaven my legs.
We're all hookers in the end.
Johnny Carwash
10-19-2006, 10:37 AM
I don't let him pay if I haven't shaven my legs.
We're all hookers in the end.
awesome
jamijams
10-19-2006, 12:01 PM
I don't let him pay if I haven't shaven my legs.
We're all hookers in the end.
show us the big version of your avatar
show us the big version of your avatar
there's no big version but I assure you its fucking hot.
jamijams
10-19-2006, 03:03 PM
why do you think i asked. duh
A*FallsInMay
10-27-2006, 09:20 PM
OK, it's official. Guys are complete shit. Even the ones who claim to be your best friends treat you like crap. I just don't understand.
(this is of course excluding all of the wonderful males here who are nothing but angels.)
Johnny Carwash
10-27-2006, 10:56 PM
(this is of course excluding all of the wonderful males here who are nothing but angels.)
thanks for that
(i hope i'm included)
GreenDisease
10-27-2006, 11:12 PM
Ya know, I gave this guy the benefit of the friggin doubt and he fell off the face of the planet.
I called him twice this week and I got no response back. The ball is in his court, I'm done calling. If he's interested like he claims he is, he'll pick up the friggin phone.
A*FallsInMay
10-28-2006, 06:21 AM
thanks for that
(i hope i'm included)
Yes my dear carwash you are absolutely angelic. http://www.xrtheme.com/content/emoticons/Angels/01.gif
Yeah, Pearl Jam guys are alright. But everyone else sucks.
And Cara, he doesn't deserve you.
Buannan
10-28-2006, 11:33 AM
Men are shit
never, ever thought I'd say/believe that...but after what I've been through this past year...I've concluded that 98% of the men out there are shit and the other 2% are taken or gay
Cara, I'm sorry that he is living up the the stereotypical image...what a jerk...he probably isn't really a hockey fan anyway..so who wants him?
;)
GreenDisease
10-28-2006, 01:53 PM
I'm working on a hockey puck cookie as I type this..... looks like a giant one sided oreo right now, but we'll see! If I can pull this off, I'm a better artist then I thought I was, haha.
Now thats a hockey fan!
I wouldn't feel too bad GD. It happens to everyone. Hell, it happened to me last night. I had talked to a guy on the phone for the past three weeks and we met for the first time last night. We hung out, had dinner, walked around town in the course of 4 hours. After I got home, he called to tell me he didn't feel that initial "spark" he wanted to feel. I thought things were going fine from my end. Sure it was a little bit strange hanging out at first because your face to face with this person but it wasn't anything major. I think you just have to keep trying. sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Just don't shortchange yourself.
Also, just keep trying to make yourself better. Cara first.
Hope that helps.
GreenDisease
10-29-2006, 06:47 PM
Thanks for the kind words babe, I appreciate it.
I'll never understand why some people (mainly men) have to feel that instant "spark". This isn't the movies, this is real life.... "Sparks" can sometimes take some time, and rightly so. Anything instant in my opinion is mainly on the superficial level. Chemistry and true feelings need to take some time to develope and can't happen in the span of 4 hours. Thats just crazy talk!
Highway23
10-29-2006, 06:52 PM
well, coming from a crazy boy myself I think that the sparks that guys are referring to are something that they have to have
Guys want it to be there, quickly, and with little effort. Most guys think that it should be there at that very instant, otherwise they shouldn't try and work for it...
I hope this works out for you. I would stop calling this guy though. sounds like a douche bag.
good luck!
well, coming from a crazy boy myself I think that the sparks that guys are referring to are something that they have to have
Guys want it to be there, quickly, and with little effort. Most guys think that it should be there at that very instant, otherwise they shouldn't try and work for it...
I hope this works out for you. I would stop calling this guy though. sounds like a douche bag.
good luck!
I'm assuming its a physical thing? Shit and here I thought I was somewhat good looking.
Highway23
10-29-2006, 07:04 PM
no, it isn't a physical thing...that is what gets you the phone call...
but sometimes it's just not there
and yer more than 'somewhat'
GreenDisease
10-29-2006, 07:14 PM
I'm assuming its a physical thing? Shit and here I thought I was somewhat good looking.
Sometimes it is physical for men, I just got turned down again by someone I just sent my picture to... so yeah, physicality is a big thing for guys.
Shweta, you are so beautiful!
I haven't called this other guy since last week. I left the ball in his court, its up to him to pick it up. I'm done.
no, it isn't a physical thing...that is what gets you the phone call...
but sometimes it's just not there
and yer more than 'somewhat'
yeah I am pretty much done with this dude. He called again today. Talk about wanting your cake and eating it too. This personality ain't for free yo.
did you see my lame video yet:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZ6I2bdaQEo
panthergirl
10-29-2006, 09:27 PM
not lame.
:)
Highway23
10-29-2006, 10:00 PM
sigor (one of theirs right?) is good
if your voice was louder, it would be perfect
sigor (one of theirs right?) is good
if your voice was louder, it would be perfect
No. Its by The Knife. Cover by Jose Gonzalez.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrZbhJ-Qc_c&NR
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrZbhJ-Qc_c&NR
you're welcome, Highway23
reallygroovN
10-29-2006, 10:30 PM
the spark can be a dangerous thing, also.... i mean, that instant attraction is your subconscience picking up something about that person and that thing triggers a memory that produces some sort of chemical reaction in your brain. it could be an attractedness of a positive quality, however it also could be an attractedness of a quality that is dangerous to you but that you fall for over and over again.
i heard this one person say...when i feel that spark when i see a guy from across the room, and sense that instantanious attraction...i know to run the other way - fast!
what you are attracted to isnt always good for you!
anywho - good video, shweta. your voice sounds really nice.
Highway23
10-29-2006, 10:39 PM
No. Its by The Knife. Cover by Jose Gonzalez.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrZbhJ-Qc_c&NR
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrZbhJ-Qc_c&NR
you're welcome, Highway23
Okay! I knew I had the song on my computer, but I didn't know where
The Knife...cool!
Johnny Carwash
10-29-2006, 10:56 PM
cathy, i've never heard anyone say that, and that's what i needed to hear
thanks
the spark can be a dangerous thing, also.... i mean, that instant attraction is your subconscience picking up something about that person and that thing triggers a memory that produces some sort of chemical reaction in your brain. it could be an attractedness of a positive quality, however it also could be an attractedness of a quality that is dangerous to you but that you fall for over and over again.
i heard this one person say...when i feel that spark when i see a guy from across the room, and sense that instantanious attraction...i know to run the other way - fast!
what you are attracted to isnt always good for you!
anywho - good video, shweta. your voice sounds really nice.
Okay! I knew I had the song on my computer, but I didn't know where
The Knife...cool!
Next to Eddie in his earlier years, Jose Gonzalez has some of the best mannerisms behind the mic I've ever seen. it's very subtle.
the spark can be a dangerous thing, also.... i mean, that instant attraction is your subconscience picking up something about that person and that thing triggers a memory that produces some sort of chemical reaction in your brain. it could be an attractedness of a positive quality, however it also could be an attractedness of a quality that is dangerous to you but that you fall for over and over again.
i heard this one person say...when i feel that spark when i see a guy from across the room, and sense that instantanious attraction...i know to run the other way - fast!
what you are attracted to isnt always good for you!
anywho - good video, shweta. your voice sounds really nice.
Yeah, I thought we were a little more grown up and didn't need the spark but hey.. to each his own I suppose.
I knew I was still cute.
Highway23
10-29-2006, 11:14 PM
Next to Eddie in his earlier years, Jose Gonzalez has some of the best mannerisms behind the mic I've ever seen. it's very subtle.
that in itself is a huge statement...
I will see what else I can find from him
reallygroovN
10-29-2006, 11:27 PM
yeah, we're all cute in our own minds:P
glad to help, joe!
Not_Trapped
10-29-2006, 11:39 PM
the spark can be a dangerous thing, also.... i mean, that instant attraction is your subconscience picking up something about that person and that thing triggers a memory that produces some sort of chemical reaction in your brain. it could be an attractedness of a positive quality, however it also could be an attractedness of a quality that is dangerous to you but that you fall for over and over again.
i heard this one person say...when i feel that spark when i see a guy from across the room, and sense that instantanious attraction...i know to run the other way - fast!
what you are attracted to isnt always good for you!
anywho - good video, shweta. your voice sounds really nice.
see, the thing is this - the way you explain it - you know good from bad in your head...that's how that synaptical response generates...without such "repitition", if you will, that response will not generate. but, true, sometimes the things that attract are the things that hurt you. but, it's your deciding to ignore a negative aspect. in short, what i'm trying to say is, i don't think there are situations where there is confusion. you know whether something is good for you...some people are just better than others at avoiding those obviously bad situations.
it took me a long time to realize that the negative "spark" wouldn't go away just because a positive "spark" occurred some of the time...i guess it all became easier when there was a lack of a negative "spark"...i think that's the key...
see, the thing is this - the way you explain it - you know good from bad in your head...that's how that synaptical response generates...without such "repitition", if you will, that response will not generate. but, true, sometimes the things that attract are the things that hurt you. but, it's your deciding to ignore a negative aspect. in short, what i'm trying to say is, i don't think there are situations where there is confusion. you know whether something is good for you...some people are just better than others at avoiding those obviously bad situations.
it took me a long time to realize that the negative "spark" wouldn't go away just because a positive "spark" occurred some of the time...i guess it all became easier when there was a lack of a negative "spark"...i think that's the key...
I was told there was no spark. And that I was like "hanging out with an old female friend"
I thought that was a good thing but I also got discarded into the "friend" basket which can't be a good thing.
yer ardy
10-30-2006, 12:52 AM
i'd like to spark one up right now...:smoke:
males are tactile creatures - it's all about the physical, it's biological by design. there's no denying it, no trying to hide it, it's just the way it is.
it's something (most) females have a hard time understanding because we are not wired that way. we are all about the emotion, the feeling, the cerebral...and the physical comes into play much later.
unfortunately, a lot of hearts get stomped on because of this. once in a while it works out. as cliche' as it sounds, you just gotta keep on truckin til that happens.
Not_Trapped
10-30-2006, 09:59 AM
well, the good news is that you have a new friend...if you want that. i have been in a couple of situations where it was either date or nothing. i am sure that the guy would have had no problem if you would have ripped his pants off and started going at him...that's when you look at his possibly meager erection and say, "an old female friend, HUH", and walk away...
well, the good news is that you have a new friend...if you want that. i have been in a couple of situations where it was either date or nothing. i am sure that the guy would have had no problem if you would have ripped his pants off and started going at him...that's when you look at his possibly meager erection and say, "an old female friend, HUH", and walk away...
I don't want any new friends. I want a boyfriend.
jamijams
10-30-2006, 05:55 PM
act dumber
act dumber
I already am pretty dumb.
Not_Trapped
10-30-2006, 06:26 PM
i can understand that one...i've wanted a boyfriend for a long time...
show your tits more...get drunk...FUCK...
none of that is true...just keep doing what you're doing...that's all i can say...don't ever compromise yourself for someone else...remember, shweta first! and after that...shweta's box...
jamijams
10-30-2006, 06:28 PM
remember, shweta first! and after that...shweta's box...
hahahahahaha
shweta's box
hahahahahaha
what the fuck. the reply rate here is fuckin slow as molasses. do you all have lives or something? Anyway, you wanna see a pic of the perp? Ok I won't show it. you can pm me if you wanna see it. Let me know if I'm cuter than him. HOLLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA.
Not_Trapped
10-30-2006, 06:30 PM
i had class...stop saying holla...i think you should show us the picture
i had class...stop saying holla...i think you should show us the picture
I think that would be a very bad thing. PM me if you wanna see the pics yo.
Why the fuck are you talking about my box?????
http://imagesource.allposters.com/images/pic/CORPOD/AAAZ001054~Kitten-Sitting-in-Red-Box-Posters.jpg
jamijams
10-30-2006, 06:43 PM
I don't need a picture to know you're too cute for him
duh
now, if there is a picture that can show direct proportion of abrasiveness to cute factor, send me that
I don't need a picture to know you're too cute for him
duh
now, if there is a picture that can show direct proportion of abrasiveness to cute factor, send me that
I was really upset all sunday. I cried until I was dehydrated. Then I drank a liter of water and started crying again. It was so emo that I almost wrote a song. But I couldn't see the page because I was crying too much.
I don't know what spark is but I don't like that word anymore.
jamijams
10-30-2006, 06:55 PM
well, my honest suggestion shweta is to try and temper your abrasive side with some of that human emotional side.
it doesn't always have to be so stone-wall serious
i was a wreck when I met Colt, and many of my girl behaviors that I thought I had under control came out
the giggling, blushing, coy flirting stuff
yuck, but......it worked. so don't always feel like you have to be the anti girly girl person. it's Ok to be a little bit that way too
well, my honest suggestion shweta is to try and temper your abrasive side with some of that human emotional side.
it doesn't always have to be so stone-wall serious
i was a wreck when I met Colt, and many of my girl behaviors that I thought I had under control came out
the giggling, blushing, coy flirting stuff
yuck, but......it worked. so don't always feel like you have to be the anti girly girl person. it's Ok to be a little bit that way too
I was so girly it's not even funny. actually its really funny.
Not_Trapped
10-30-2006, 08:29 PM
i was talking about your box...i was suggesting that it should be the second line of priority...
you're too good for that guy...i don't need to see him...
i know, for me, that a lot of things have changed in the last, oh, 9 months... have confidence in myself...and i look to tomorrow happily...i am not sure if it is the same for everyone...but, i believe that all the walls fall down when you find someone with whom you truly connect...
then again, it is possible to fool yourself into thinking something like that...so, settle in, do what makes you happy...whatever that is...and let time figure it out for you
A*FallsInMay
10-30-2006, 08:43 PM
Shweta, I think you need a little Axl lovin'...
"Don't you cryyyyy tonight
I still love you ba-by
Don't you cryyyyy tonight
Don't you cryyyyy tonight
There's a heeeeaven above you ba-by
And don't you cryyyyy tonight"
This is not my area of expertise but it goes without saying that 1) you are too cute for him and 2) just be yourself, whatever that might be at the moment...dumb, girly, serious, abrasive, funny, sparky, friend-worthy. You are a complex person and the person who deserves you will appreciate all of those sides of you. Oh yeah and make sure you show a little cleavage ;-)
Also interesting to note. Today five weeks after I have arrived in this country I find out that British guys are notoriously rubbish at dating and that women here are supposed to make the first move. Who knew? Why don't they post these things at the airport security lines? Jeez...
Johnny Carwash
10-30-2006, 08:46 PM
if there's one thing anyone on this board could use, it's some Axl lovin'
Highway23
10-30-2006, 08:47 PM
Most of you probably remember my experiences...so I won't bore you again
However, I think that the main thing is to NOT force it. Let it happen naturally...don't even think about it. I had hit a point where I was going to give up and just not care...next thing I know..Mere shows up and all that changed over a single night.
Sure, it was a little different because we had been friends for quite awhile...more of just aquantences really...and had some of the same friends...but it was the idea that both of us at that time weren't really looking for anything and were trying to be content with what we had going. The next thing we knew, we were falling in love and that's where it all started.
It will happen, don't force it, but also, you just have to go with your gut. You're both beautiful girls, the boys will be there :)
this thread has taken a turn for the emo.
Not_Trapped
10-30-2006, 09:50 PM
my girlfriend dumped me and when i asked why she said, "i already have one pussy...i don't need another one"
reallygroovN
10-30-2006, 11:01 PM
you know....both of you, shweta and cara....fuck those guys...i mean, dont fuck them but...fuck them! why would you want a guy that either you would have to change or he would have to change in order to....fuck?
be youself
get over it
move on
find a guy that is being himself
end of fucking story.
howz that for anti-emo:alien:
oh, and dom, you know...the whole spark thing happens in your subconscious/unconscious brain. it reacts without any effort from you. its nothing that you analyze or debate...i just happens. that primal part of your brain just sparks and then we put meaning into it. if it sparks for the *wrong* reason, it doesnt matter - it just sparks. a lot of people (or maybe they are just my friends) have problems with the spark sparking and them interpretating it as *relationship i love this guy* when really the spark should be interpretated as *get me the heck out of here this person is psycho*.
im tired but i have to stay up because i think there are bets as to who will egg the substitute's house tonight. fuckers.
Not_Trapped
10-30-2006, 11:06 PM
when you talk about it in terms of someone knowing that when they feel it they should run the other way then it's not something that is unconscious or subconscious...it's a response generated from experience...it happens without any effort by the individual...it just happens...but it has to come from experience. and, it's very much open to interpretation. if you define it in terms of that primal attraction then it is unconscious. but, then, you have the issue of the woman vs. the man primal unconscious...which is believed to reside, most dominantly in the male with a very small percentage of women having such primal "urges". there are certain things about people that cause whatever reaction in the opposite sex (or the same sex)...it has to do with society, biology, and psychology.
rockrighter
10-30-2006, 11:08 PM
this thread has taken a turn for the emo.
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reallygroovN
10-30-2006, 11:09 PM
i'm really not sure what the fuck i just said, to be honest :normal: :P
you know....both of you, shweta and cara....fuck those guys...i mean, dont fuck them but...fuck them! why would you want a guy that either you would have to change or he would have to change in order to....fuck?
be youself
get over it
move on
find a guy that is being himself
end of fucking story.
howz that for anti-emo:alien:
oh, and dom, you know...the whole spark thing happens in your subconscious/unconscious brain. it reacts without any effort from you. its nothing that you analyze or debate...i just happens. that primal part of your brain just sparks and then we put meaning into it. if it sparks for the *wrong* reason, it doesnt matter - it just sparks. a lot of people (or maybe they are just my friends) have problems with the spark sparking and them interpretating it as *relationship i love this guy* when really the spark should be interpretated as *get me the heck out of here this person is psycho*.
im tired but i have to stay up because i think there are bets as to who will egg the substitute's house tonight. fuckers.
whoa, calm down woman.
reallygroovN
10-30-2006, 11:10 PM
i'm on a tear.
_sysiphus_
10-31-2006, 12:01 AM
Wow, an emo thread about the lack of available good men - why didn't I reply sooner :P
The one thing I've learned is that it's better to be rejected at the start and for the guy to show himself as a total flake ASAP instead of months or years down the road. It still hurts like a bitch but it saves you more heartache later on.
The last guy I dated, I forced it - he was perfect on paper, we had similar interests, hobbies, intellect, but there was no spark, but I didn't dump him because I wanted a boyfriend and voila, he just stopped calling and of course I curse his name now, but we're both way better off for it.
Another guy I dated, I felt the spark right away but like groovN said, it was the wrong spark - the guy was my polar opposite, we had nothing in common, but I misinterpreted that spark until my brain convinced me it was time to dump him.
Everyone says it happens when you least expect it, which I can sorta see - when I force it, nothing happens, but when I don't try, nothing happens either, lol. Where do you meet these good guys?
prism
10-31-2006, 12:44 AM
Wow, an emo thread about the lack of available good men - why didn't I reply sooner :P
The one thing I've learned is that it's better to be rejected at the start and for the guy to show himself as a total flake ASAP instead of months or years down the road. It still hurts like a bitch but it saves you more heartache later on.
The last guy I dated, I forced it - he was perfect on paper, we had similar interests, hobbies, intellect, but there was no spark, but I didn't dump him because I wanted a boyfriend and voila, he just stopped calling and of course I curse his name now, but we're both way better off for it.
Another guy I dated, I felt the spark right away but like groovN said, it was the wrong spark - the guy was my polar opposite, we had nothing in common, but I misinterpreted that spark until my brain convinced me it was time to dump him.
Everyone says it happens when you least expect it, which I can sorta see - when I force it, nothing happens, but when I don't try, nothing happens either, lol. Where do you meet these good guys?
I know, i've been least expecting it for years now....and nada. now I just figure that it'll never, ever happen....at least that's SOMETHING that I can depend on and trust :confused:
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