9 March, 1995

[13throwcenter]

Okay, I'm also not mocking Trapped... I was planning to make this post anyway. On this day in 1995 one of my co-workers and good friends was killed in a freak accident on her way home from work. You see, March came in like a lion that year and the wind blew down a tree which happened to land upon her car and she was killed instantly. It's always been tough to grasp the knowledge that five seconds either way and she would be alive today. It's mind boggling the way things turn out sometimes. Many of us had a tough time dealing with thoughts like "if only I would have talked to her for another minute..." She was quite a gal- even before she died I used to say she was one of my favorite people alive. She had a great sense of humor and was not afraid to share her stories of human folly. She was the one person I knew who had actually successfully managed to be a true friend and mother to her kids. She loved them and was not afraid to express her feelings for them publically.... she was soooo proud. They were a family who had FUN just being together. She died shortly before I learned I was pregnant, but I still reflect back on the way she was with her kids and I strive to maintain that type of relationship with Ash.

I could have really used her shoulder to lean on during the past 6 months.... I really miss her.

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And the rivers shall open for the righteous, someday.

[Abikins70]

Hiya 13, long time no speak.

I remember you posting about this friend before - I think on the Synergy Board (spit);)
I remember you saying that if there was one thing that you would love - it was to be a mother
like her - I think that says it all really don't you:)
I know how it feels to lose someone and miss them - its so fuckin' hard. And you just feel
so privileged to have have known and to have been part of their lives.
One thing that is really good (and that you can say) is that you appreciated them before they
died - that's a really nice and comforting thing to be able to say.

My friends anniversary is tomorrow - he's gone 1 year now.

Thinking of you

Abikins70
xxx

[13throwcenter]

Yeah, Abikins... I posted a tribute to her back in December on her birthday.... and you are right, I think knowing that I appreciated her gifts in life has made it a little easier to live with her loss.

Much love to you as you approach the anniversary of the loss of your own special one.... thanks for the kind words.


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And the rivers shall open for the righteous, someday.

[vitolochica]

I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm sure she knows what a great friend you are...

Daylight fading come and waste another year. All the anger and the eloquence are bleeding into fear.

[yer ardy]

i, too, remember the post you made about your lovelee friend...
and you know? maybe, in the last 6 months, when you felt that
lil push or guidance to help you...maybe it was her presence &
spirit guiding you along...if you thought one thought about her,
then she was with you during that time...

{{{{sandi}}}}

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~there's still time to change the road you're on..

[13throwcenter]

thanks ardy, you might be right about that. I just picked up some beautiful pink and white tulips to put in a vase under her memorial that we have for her at work. Unfortunately I am the only person left in the office who worked with her./images/frown.gif

~.~.~.~.~
And the rivers shall open for the righteous, someday.