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GreenDisease

07-21-2004, 06:41 PM

Please tell me I did! LOL

Okay, here's the lowdown......

Just for pure shits and giggles I joined match.com for a month to see what happens...... Im 25, bored, and ready for a relationship. I was looking through some of the profiles of the men that are close to my area and I came across a profile with this really cute guy, someone that I recognized.

At work, there is a driver who I have this mad crush on, but I can't even bring myself to say hello Im so shy.

When I was looking at the profiles picture, I realized that it was the guy I have a crush on at work. I gathered up the nerve to email him a quick message, but Im hoping that I did the right thing. I didn't gush in it, it was just a basic message that I recognized him from work, and that I hope this could be an ice breaker to talk more, on the computer and at work.

I really hope that I did the right thing by contacting him!

moyboy

07-21-2004, 06:47 PM

PJ_Angel

07-21-2004, 07:57 PM

Me too. I probably wouldn't have the guts to do it. :P

hollie

07-21-2004, 08:32 PM

moyboy

07-21-2004, 08:39 PM

of course you did the right thing...hell, i wish i could get up the nerve to talk to the guy that i have a crush on, but can't seem to do it (i've even thought about like "accidentally" tripping and falling right in front of him...how lame is that?) more girls need to go up to guys and just talk...who knows, something may come out of it!

you can talk to me, don't be scared. :)
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GreenDisease

07-21-2004, 09:10 PM

of course you did the right thing...hell, i wish i could get up the nerve to talk to the guy that i have a crush on, but can't seem to do it (i've even thought about like "accidentally" tripping and falling right in front of him...how lame is that?) more girls need to go up to guys and just talk...who knows, something may come out of it!
I can always get the nerve to talk to someone on the computer, because Ive got the screen to hide me. LOL. I'd NEVER talk to him face to face on fear of he'd walk right by me..and I don't deal with shoot downs very well, lol.

hollie

07-21-2004, 09:20 PM

and I don't deal with shoot downs very well, lol.
neither do I...in my whole life, i've only gone up to two guys and asked them out, one said yes (i had a dream about that guy the other night...sure hope that doesn't come true...the "relationship" didn't end to well), the other said no (both were back in the 8th grade)...

i've thought about using match or yahoo and just see, there are a lot of cute guys that are in my area, but then i would actually have to meet that person and i'm not good w/that part....

keep us posted, cara...

GreenDisease

07-21-2004, 10:34 PM

neither do I...in my whole life, i've only gone up to two guys and asked them out, one said yes (i had a dream about that guy the other night...sure hope that doesn't come true...the "relationship" didn't end to well), the other said no (both were back in the 8th grade)...

i've thought about using match or yahoo and just see, there are a lot of cute guys that are in my area, but then i would actually have to meet that person and i'm not good w/that part....

keep us posted, cara...
I will Hollie, I promise. :)

I hardly see him at work because I work upstairs and he's out on the road alot being a driver and all. I see him for like 5 seconds in the morning and thats about it. Occasionally I see him for a few seconds during the day when he pops in to get more deliveries.

There is a girl that I work with that is dating one of the other drivers, and Im wondering if it would seem desperate or weird if I ask her how good of a guy he is(the guy that I have a crush on)..Im just worried that she might go blabbing or something.. you know how offices are sometimes. Nothing is EVER kept confidential, lol.

ShadowJam1

07-22-2004, 07:13 PM

I will Hollie, I promise. :)

I hardly see him at work because I work upstairs and he's out on the road alot being a driver and all. I see him for like 5 seconds in the morning and thats about it. Occasionally I see him for a few seconds during the day when he pops in to get more deliveries.

There is a girl that I work with that is dating one of the other drivers, and Im wondering if it would seem desperate or weird if I ask her how good of a guy he is(the guy that I have a crush on)..Im just worried that she might go blabbing or something.. you know how offices are sometimes. Nothing is EVER kept confidential, lol.
I met one of the best men I have ever known through a online personals website...

peacefulness

07-22-2004, 08:14 PM

I met one of the best men I have ever known through a online personals website...
Sounds good to me. I say, if you are where you want to look for that sort of thing, then go for it. And if it doesn't amount to much, then it wasn't meant to be and it's not a reflection of either of you necessarily. And if it does, then that's just so great too. :)

Once I've seen someone I know on an online personals site. Too bad it wasn't someone I was remotley interested in in that way. haha

~Melanie

ShadowJam1

07-23-2004, 09:36 AM

Sounds good to me. I say, if you are where you want to look for that sort of thing, then go for it. And if it doesn't amount to much, then it wasn't meant to be and it's not a reflection of either of you necessarily. And if it does, then that's just so great too. :)

Once I've seen someone I know on an online personals site. Too bad it wasn't someone I was remotley interested in in that way. haha

~Melanie
It was quite the love story for us, indeed.:)
I had been seperated for over a year, and really didn't want anything to do with a man. My oldest daughter got me on some personals sites, and that was how it all began..
I lost him to a drunk driver some years ago, but it all had it's purpose.
Because of knowing him, I met another man long before my Scott died. As friends to Scott, and I only, and when Scott died it turned into more after about another year..
And now I am married to this wonderful man..:)
So it just goes to show, good things CAN happen...

reallygroovN

07-23-2004, 01:14 PM

It was quite the love story for us, indeed.:)
I had been seperated for over a year, and really didn't want anything to do with a man. My oldest daughter got me on some personals sites, and that was how it all began..
I lost him to a drunk driver some years ago, but it all had it's purpose.
Because of knowing him, I met another man long before my Scott died. As friends to Scott, and I only, and when Scott died it turned into more after about another year..
And now I am married to this wonderful man..:)
So it just goes to show, good things CAN happen...

wow, thats an incredible story sj! funny, how things work out...

i met my hub in a gas station :P

ProfessorFrink

07-23-2004, 01:17 PM

i met my hub in a gas station :P

and you looked at him suggestively and said, "fill 'er up"?

ShadowJam1

07-23-2004, 05:03 PM

and you looked at him suggestively and said, "fill 'er up"?
That's funny, because the first time I ever saw Scott face to face, I was working at a gas station, and that is exactly what he said to me.
I am from Delaware, he lived in Connecticut, and he kept 'threatening' to drive down here to meet me, and he told me that was what he was going to say to me!
It's a very long story, but one I will always remember as long as I live.
My husaband now, was the first one to me, when he found out that Scott was killed in the accident. He loved him like a brother, and we both have fond memories of Scott..

reallygroovN

07-23-2004, 07:29 PM

and you looked at him suggestively and said, "fill 'er up"?
ohmygosh, shadow, I was the one working at the gas station, too!....and frink, actually, i looked at him suggestively and said, 'can i check your fluids' :P hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaHA :D

ProfessorFrink

07-23-2004, 08:34 PM

ohmygosh, shadow, I was the one working at the gas station, too!....and frink, actually, i looked at him suggestively and said, 'can i check your fluids' :P hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaHA :D

how dare you one-up me?!

reallygroovN

07-23-2004, 10:33 PM

how dare you one-up me?!
i think you are slipping, there frinky. because i seem to be alllllllllllllllllllllllllll about the one-more-than-frink these days :D are you feeling ok?

ProfessorFrink

07-23-2004, 10:37 PM

i think you are slipping, there frinky. because i seem to be alllllllllllllllllllllllllll about the one-more-than-frink these days :D are you feeling ok?

it must be the explosive diarrhea that I've been having. I always feel like I've got nothing left to give.

reallygroovN

07-23-2004, 10:49 PM

it must be the explosive diarrhea that I've been having. I always feel like I've got nothing left to give.
poor baby. its probably that untreated water up there :rolleyes:

ProfessorFrink

07-23-2004, 10:51 PM

poor baby. its probably that untreated water up there :rolleyes:

well, I'm pretty sure the problem is water that I treated. so I can't complain.

GreenDisease

07-24-2004, 08:00 PM

well, I'm pretty sure the problem is water that I treated. so I can't complain.
Well, I guess I struck out. He was on vacation this week, and from match.com I could see that he was on today.

Blegh... I knew it was a stupid thing to do. Dammit! I hope he doesn't give me weird looks at work. :( Now I can go back to feeling fat and ugly again.

Buannan

07-24-2004, 09:28 PM

Well, I guess I struck out. He was on vacation this week, and from match.com I could see that he was on today.

Blegh... I knew it was a stupid thing to do. Dammit! I hope he doesn't give me weird looks at work. :( Now I can go back to feeling fat and ugly again.
people don't always respond immediately you know

sometimes you want to wait a few days to figure out what exactly you want to say in response...cut him...and yourself...some slack here

hollie

07-24-2004, 09:38 PM

Well, I guess I struck out. He was on vacation this week, and from match.com I could see that he was on today.

Blegh... I knew it was a stupid thing to do. Dammit! I hope he doesn't give me weird looks at work. :( Now I can go back to feeling fat and ugly again.
no it wasn't a stupid thing at all....and i bet he'll come up and talk to you since you already broke the ice....

I had this *massive* crush on this guy that worked at a grocery store (he was like one of the daytime managers)...so anyways, in March of '02 my grandpa had died, so the next week i knew i was going to be in there, and so the night before i was "talking" to my grandpa, and give him the lowdown on this crush and basically said "you could just put him right there and i can bump into to him"...the next day rolls around, i went to the store but didn't see him...i went to take another cart up to the cart-thingy and when i came back around the corner my mom and grandma were heading that way, so i just starting backing up....lo-and-behold i could feel someone right behind me...yep, it was him....I mean, i could have said something, but i didn't...that was one of the last times i saw him :disapp:.....well, in fact the last time i saw him was at an Outback Steakhouse...and once again, i thought that the next time i was at the store i was going to say something like, "So what did you eat at the Outback last Friday night?"...i'm sure that would have totally freaked him out....but nope never saw him again....damn he was cute...i thought about doing things to him that i've never done (or even thought about doing) before.....
since i moved, another branch of that grocery store opened up closer to me and one of the guys from the other store now works there, and i know that Josh is friends w/Jeff (the crush), so maybe i'll ask him...Josh is kinda cute, but really not my type....

Buannan

07-24-2004, 09:46 PM

if you wanna hear something sad....I had a huge, huge crush on this guy that was a waiter at a rather expensive seafood restaurant in utah...I went there a couple of times just to have him wait on me....he had the cutest damn smile and smelled sooooo good...but I was scared to say anything to him along the lines of going out or anything

I took a friend there so she could see him...and tell me if I was nuts or not....and give me suggestions...anyway...she told me I should write down my phone number and give it to him and tell him to call me sometime...well...I intended to...really...but I was chicken shit to....so the next time I went there...I just wrote down my number with a note to call me sometime if he wanted to

I never heard from him

I found out he committed suicide like 2 weeks after that

I swear to god...I'm not so ugly that a guy would rather kill himself than call me

am I?

anyway....it took about 15 yrs before I dared do that again
and that guy didn't work out either...too bad....he was like my dream guy...seriously..he looked exactly like a guy I used to have actual dreams about from the time I was 8 yrs old or so

haven't dreamed about him since things totally washed out with this guy

I hate being single...or maybe I just hate trying not to be single

anyway....sorry cara...didn't mean to hi-jack your post

give him some time to respond...ok? and even if he doesn't..there's lots of guys on match.com that seem pretty ok...look for another and try again