Transcendental Consequences

[13throwcenter]

*sigh*.... well I am home from my arraignment with the judge. Thank god that is over. It was somewhat interesting to listen to the cases...I was actually glad I was the second to the last person called so that I got a good chance to know what the hell I was supposed to do and say...around 10am I had this sudden warm feeling overcome me, and I believe it was all the vibes you all were sending me finally reaching their destination. That made me smile. Towards the end I started to freak out tho, I started shaking and was almost in tears just out of fear of the unknown. I had no idea whether to plead guilty and take my chances or not guilty and have to hire an attorney (like I can afford one!)Thankfully I asked the right questions and the city attorney told me before I entered a plea what they had in mind for my sentence, so I was able to make a decision for myself without retaining an attorney and having a trial. I plead guilty to 4th degree domestic violence assault and 3rd degree malicious mischief. Here is the sentence: $250 fine, $40 restitution (for the stuff i broke), a domestic/anger evaluation, 2 years probation which costs $50 a month, however it can be converted to a bench probation once I've completed the other stuff at a cost of only $100 each year. I also can't possess any firearms for the next 2 years. (I told the city attorney everyone in America should sign the form I was signing that said I would not possess a gun, heh) So when all is said and done, my little stunt on Friday is going to cost me about $500 bucks and a 38 hours of my life in jail. What a dork. I have to go back next week to get the no-contact order with my ex rescinded, and I have myself my very own probation officer (good thing I didn't get that job I applied for, eh? how awkward would THAT be?!) So, I guess it worked out okay for me, it could have been a lot worse. Thank you again to all of you who have given me so much support over the past 5 days now... I could not have done this without you.




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What if the Hokey-Pokey *is* what it's all about?

[poopypants]

well at least that's over with...maybe you should go and buy a guitar and learn how to play?? that shit changed my life for real, i've been playing for 6 years now. You still have to go to jail??

[13throwcenter]

nope, the jail time was suspended. woooooo hoooooooooooo!!!!




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What if the Hokey-Pokey *is* what it's all about?

[poopypants]

can i ask you a personal question only because my fuckin PM doesn't work! I'll send something to someone and then it ends up in my mailbox?! Anyway, i was just wondering how old you are? You said your ex was 41 and you have a 7 year old son so i'm thinking you around 32?? If you just want to send me a PM maybe i'll get it. just curious

[13throwcenter]

to send a pm from this place, you have to actually hit the Send Private button up there and enter in the name.

My son is actually 5, but yes, I am 32 :) Why?


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What if the Hokey-Pokey *is* what it's all about?

[Phil]

Glad it's over /images/smile.gif

talk to you soon...

[edvedderismyhero]

Tsk tsk tsk...

At least that's all that you got!! Consider yourself very very lucky...and we're lucky too, for having you still around...


Lauren

Screws fall out all the time, the world's an imperfect place

[csmooth24]

considering all that happened...i am glad for you it turned out the way it did...welcome home...

I guess I will take back the gun i bought you!

~chris
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[13throwcenter]

believe me, no one in this world wants me with a gun in my hands the way I've been feeling lately!!!




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What if the Hokey-Pokey *is* what it's all about?

[csmooth24]

im sorry to hear things are so shitty right now...

there's a sun around the bend!

~chris
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[pjjerseygirl]

sheesh!!
girl you did have me a little worried!!
keep your head up:)itll be O K

Am I a human,trying to become a spiritual being,or am i a spirit,trying to become a human being

[hedonist]

Good news, Sandi...doesn't sound like *too* bad a finish, all in all......

Glad all of our good thoughts reached you, too....

[yer ardy]

well...good...glad it's over for you....
not too bad...time to move on....keep yer chin up
and i don't know about anyone else, but thanks, sandi,
for being so open and honest with us here and at CJWM.
not too many people would bare their souls and let us
in...thank you for that...you serve as an inspiration
to me...if i had one tenth the strength you have, i'd
be better off..../images/smile.gif

sometimes you win
sometimes you lose
and sometimes...it rains...

let the rain wash it all away and start anew...

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if i had one dollar for every brain you don't have, i would have one dollar

[csmooth24]

nice post ardy...and i agree...thanks for sharing it all with us...it takes guts to open up to physical friends let alone "cyber" friends, many of whom you've never met...

but i do hope to finally meet the all powerful 13 in person someday soon!

~chris
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[Baby Bowler]

yeah for 13!!! so glad to have you back safe and sound...hmmmm, when we are all in seattle maybe we can add "probation officer fund" to our charity work...hee hee.
is this going to have any effect on the amt of time you get to spend with asher? hope not...

[13throwcenter]

it's not supposed to have any effect on it since it had nothing to do with him and he was not involved, but I am concerned about how his dad is going to respond and whether or not he will let me see him, and I can't talk to his dad right now, so that is a problem I am working on.



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[Baby Bowler]

well, i am sure that all will work out fine. if the judge didnt say that you were restricted, then your ex cant just decide that you can see him any less. even if you cant talk to him, it shouldnt matter.

[13throwcenter]

thank you ardy, that is really kind.... I'm not sure if it is strength or not... I don't know what to call it. I'm a survivor, one way or the other. As far as sharing this stuff with you all, well there was no way I couldn't ... you have ridden the wave with me all along, and you are the kind of people I *want* for my friends. If anyone can learn anything from what I have to share, then all is not lost, right? So I have no problem sharing even the ugliest stuff with you all.... and you know what? I have felt no judgment from any one of you... that is amazing... it's been nothing but support for my sorry ass self, who probably deserves to be judged right now. I can't thank you all enough for that.




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What if the Hokey-Pokey *is* what it's all about?

[13throwcenter]

I don't think that he *can* do that, but I'm not convinced that he *won't*... I'm sure he thinks I am too unstable right now.




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[Baby Bowler]

this coming from someone who is didling a 20 year old? *now* who's unstable?

[13throwcenter]

actually, they aren't "didling"- he is morally opposed to it because she is still legally married.


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[Baby Bowler]

phew! he is morally opposed to that, but he was still trying to get you back as recently as last week...hmmmm.
i think asher needs his mommy.

[13throwcenter]

yeah, he and I slept together last Monday, talked about getting back together on Tuesday and Wednesday. He was playing us both.
What a fucking mess.




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[Baby Bowler]

i probably would have punched him too sandi...he is asking for it...gonna get bitch slapped in a big way.

[csmooth24]

give the word sandi...i got "friends" in bham...they can be REAL discreet...

~chris
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[13throwcenter]

are they cute? if so...send em my way!!!

hehe


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What if the Hokey-Pokey *is* what it's all about?

[csmooth24]

of course they are cute...would I have "non-cute" friends? Heck no! lol

/images/smile.gif


~chris
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[jamijams]

I literally just let out a little squeal of joy for you here at my desk. No goin' back to the pokey for our girl! Yeah, I'm so glad friend. Try to have a wonderful evening, and keep feeling all the love you're being sent!

jami

You bring about what you think about

[13throwcenter]

tell them you know a psycho bitch on the north side of town who needs a cute guy now and then, will you?! /images/tongue.gif


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[csmooth24]

just so you know...these guys are a little psycho themeselves...a perfect fit! /images/smile.gif


~chris
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